Seeing twins can sometimes be scary and stressful, especially when they are your first children. But don't forget that having twins is still a wonderful thing, some dream of it, and for others it's a surprise... Having twins doubles the workload and doubles the budget: you have to have two pacifiers, two bottles, two bibs... This article will help you organize your daily life, while giving you advice on how to keep time for yourself.
Be organized:
Having two children at once disrupts your daily life, you will have to learn to be organized and methodical. Indeed, to avoid getting tangled up, we advise you to write down in a notebook who ate, how much, at what time. This will allow you not to get lost, and also, for the person taking over from you to be able to follow. Or if you prefer, feed the twins at the same time, this will prevent you from getting lost.
Have a chart posted in a visible location where you write down all of each child's appointments.
Use color codes: a color for each child, this will be very practical for twins who do not drink the same thing, or the same quantity, and adopt this technique for everything with your twins. Take the opportunity to prepare the bottles in advance to avoid chaos when the time comes (especially at night) you will be operational more quickly. Also have several bottles for each baby. Think about preparing the dishes for yourself, as for your children the day before to freeze them. This will save you last-minute cooking. By stocking up on frozen food for the whole week, this will save you time. Indeed, every second counts when you have twins.
Stock up diapers so you never run out. Plan to have them at least two weeks in advance, this will avoid last-minute panic. You can dedicate a room or a closet specifically for stocking up on stuff for the twins by storing bibs, pacifiers and comforters in duplicate, like that, no more stress of having to find a lost comforter!
Consider having them nap at the same time, in fact, both twins are resting, you can also take advantage of it to rest. Put them in separate beds. Some parents recommend putting them in the same bed to remind them of their mother's womb, but if you separate them, it will help them to develop and not be too dependent on the other at first, but also to avoid suffocation!
Don't hesitate to ask for help and accept the help that is offered to you. Indeed, being a parent of twins will take all your energy, that's why the help of a third party will be precious to you. Ask one of your parents, a friend, your brothers and sisters, any help will be welcome.
During these times when you will be given help, take advantage of it to relax and take some time for yourself. Your rest is still very important, you need strength to be able to take care of your twins. So, take a bath, read a book, take a nap. If you are helped all day, allow yourself a day "off" by going to the spa, or to a restaurant with your partner to take your mind off things and also to keep some time for your life as a couple. If you find time, try to practice some relaxation exercises to relax. Babies sense when something is wrong, so if you are upset or stressed, your baby will sense it and absorb your energy. This is also why it is important to keep some time for yourself.
Tell your twins apart:
Once they are older, some parents like to dress and style their twins in the same way as seen in the movies. However, it is better to differentiate them to preserve their individuality. Similarly, at school or for extracurricular activities, some parents want their children to be in the same class and do the same activities, but the children may not have the same interests. It is important to listen to them, accept their differences, and above all not to compare them.